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  I am currently reading Mayim Bialik's book "Beyond the Sling" and I really love it! It is about attachment parenting (breastfeeding, babywearing, co sleeping, etc.) and it is so nice and comforting to hear how similiar her stories are to my own. I have been getting a little bent out of shape lately when it comes to Gryffin's neediness. But reading her book helps to remind me that he is my child and he needs me. A baby does NOT have the ability to manipulate and cannot be "spoiled" or held too much. When he cries it is because he needs something. Even if he just simply needs to be held. Yes, a baby can NEED to be held, not just WANT to be held. When a human is that tiny, their wants are needs. So when he is whiney and needs me to hold him, I stop whatever I am doing and I hold me sweet baby, because he needs me too. I believe in being present and here for him. I do not believe a child needs to be "trained." You train an animal, not a baby. Letting a baby cry until he "soothes" himself (really until he is just too tired to ask for you anymore) is just teaching him that you will not be there for him when he needs you to be, so he should just move on.
  I am really enjoying learning how to parent Gryffin in the most loving and kind way I can. A lot of times I find myself wanting to share these knew things I'm learning with other parents, but I am quickly finding that most people do not want to hear it. Or they think I am judging them. Who am I to judge anyone? I'm only 8 months into this! I really just truly like to share and teach, and possibly help a mom and baby understand each other better. But alas, I will keep my mouth shut because most of the time I am misunderstood as being too pushy or judgemental. I am so incredibly thankful for my sweet and devoted husband who lets me share my passion and love of learning with him. If I didnt have at least one person to share these discoveries with, I am pretty sure I would explode. 

Happy Parenting!

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